Sometimes you want to talk while grown-ups are talking. You know how to listen and how to say excuse me. Now put them together.
Key idea
When grown-ups are talking, wait for a pause, say “Excuse me,” and wait to be called on, unless something is wrong.
Why it works
Waiting lets people finish what they are saying. Then they can turn and really listen to you.
Worked example: Let's practice
Dad is talking with Mr. Diaz. Ruby's friend falls and gets hurt. What should Ruby do?
- Someone is hurt. That is something wrong.
- Ruby does not wait for a pause.
- She tells Dad right away.
Answer: “Excuse me, Dad! Omar is hurt!”
Common mistake
Thinking excuse me lets you talk right away. Say it once, then wait. If someone is hurt, it is right to interrupt.
Customs differ. Some families use a quiet signal: the child puts a hand on the grown-up's arm, and the grown-up puts a hand on top to say, “I know. One minute.” Either way, waiting is the polite part.
For the grown-up. When your child waits well, respond quickly so waiting pays off. Agree on your family's signal ahead of time, and practice it during a phone call.