Sometimes we hurt someone, even by accident. Then we say I'm sorry. A real sorry is more than one quick word.
Key idea
A real sorry has three parts: look at the person, say what happened, and try to help.
Why it works
Saying what happened shows you understand how they feel. Helping makes things better. Then the other person can feel okay again.
Worked example: Let's practice
Sam spills juice on Mia's drawing. What does a real sorry sound like?
- Sam looks at Mia.
- He says what happened: “I'm sorry I spilled juice on your drawing.”
- He offers to help: “Can I help wipe it up?”
Answer: “I'm sorry I spilled juice on your drawing. Can I help wipe it up?”
Common mistake
A fast “sorry” without looking, or “It was an accident, so it's not my fault.” Accidents can still hurt. Sorry is how we show we care.
For the grown-up. Model it with your own small slips: “I'm sorry I forgot your water bottle. I'll bring it tomorrow.” Avoid forcing an apology in the heat of the moment; wait until your child is calm, then help them find the words.