After learning to say hello, here is good news: there are many polite ways to greet someone, and you may choose one that feels right.
Key idea
A wave, a hello, a high five or a handshake are all polite. Nobody has to hug.
Why it works
A greeting is about being friendly. Any of these says, “I'm glad to see you.” Your body belongs to you, so you get to choose.
Worked example: Let's practice
Grandpa's friend holds out his hand to Sam. What can Sam do?
- A handshake is one way to say hello.
- Sam can shake hands and say hello.
- If he is shy, a wave and a hello are polite too.
Answer: Sam shakes hands and says, “Hello. Nice to meet you.”
Common mistake
Thinking you must hug everyone who asks. A wave or a handshake is polite too. Grown-ups can help say so: “Hana likes to wave hello.”
Customs differ. Families and countries greet in different ways: a bow, a kiss on the cheek, a hand on the heart, a handshake. Each is polite where it is used.
For the grown-up. Offer choices before a visit: “Will you wave, high-five or hug Grandma?” Back up your child's choice in the moment, kindly, so relatives understand it is not rudeness.