You have learned many kind words. Here is the biggest idea of all: manners are about how other people feel.
Key idea
Notice when someone is sad, left out or hurt. Ask, “Are you okay?” or invite them in.
Why it works
Please and thank you are words. But the heart of good manners is caring how people feel, and doing something kind about it.
Faces and bodies can tell us how someone feels. A frown, tears, or sitting alone can mean someone needs a friend.
Worked example: Let's practice
Mia falls down and starts to cry. What can Omar do?
- Omar notices that Mia is hurt.
- He asks if she is okay.
- He gets a grown-up to help.
Answer: Omar asks, “Are you okay?” and gets a grown-up.
Common mistake
Thinking manners are only words to say. Noticing someone who looks sad, and being kind to them, is the heart of good manners.
For the grown-up. Name feelings as they happen, in books and in life: “How do you think the bear feels?” Notice and praise kindness more than politeness: “You saw Hana was alone and asked her to play. That was kind.”