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Resting and Finished Positions

Resting: utensils on the plate, never on the table (in Continental style, crossed near the tips like an upside-down V, fork tines down). Finished: fork and knife side by side, diagonally, handles toward the lower right.

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In either style there comes a moment when you put your utensils down, to talk, to drink, or because you are done. Where you put them sends a silent message to the host and the server.

Key idea

Resting: utensils stay on the plate, never on the table. In American style the knife rests across the upper right of the plate, blade in, and the fork lies on the plate below it. In Continental style they cross near the tips like an upside-down V, fork over knife, tines down. Finished: fork and knife side by side, diagonally, handles toward 4 o'clock (the lower right), the knife blade facing the fork.

Why it works

A used utensil laid on the tablecloth leaves food on it and on the table, so once used, it stays on the plate. The resting and finished positions also save words: a server can see from across the room whether to clear your plate, without interrupting you to ask.
Resting and finished positions in both styles, with the plate rim numbered like a clock.

Worked example: A pause to talk

Halfway through dinner, Priya (American style) wants to sip water and listen to a story. Where do her utensils go?
  1. She is not finished, so she uses the resting position.
  2. Knife across the upper right of the plate, blade facing in; fork on the plate, tines up.

Answer: The American resting position, on the plate.

Worked example: Done

Omar finishes eating. How does he tell the server, without a word?
  1. He lays the fork and knife side by side, diagonally across the plate.
  2. The handles point toward 4 o'clock, the lower right, so the server can lift them easily.
  3. The knife blade faces the fork.

Answer: The finished position: side by side, handles toward 4 o'clock.

The mistake: utensils leaning on the rim with the handles on the table, like oars or a gangplank.

Common mistake

Leaning used utensils on the table or on the rim like oars. Once used, a utensil stays on the plate; the finished position tells the server you are done. Quick check: is any part of a used fork or knife touching the tablecloth? Then move it onto the plate.
Customs differ: writers disagree on whether the tips of a finished fork and knife should point to 10 o'clock or 12 o'clock. Either way the idea is the same: side by side on the plate, so the server sees you are done.

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Sources and further reading

  • Present-day American custom, as etiquette writers widely describe it: the resting and finished positions of the fork and knife
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